For high achievers shaped by unmet childhood needs
— especially those who learned responsibility before safety.
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See how your drive may be an adaptation
— and what changes when you live with more grace and ease.
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Take the “Were You Parentified?” Quiz
A brief self-reflection. No diagnosis.
Why Strength Starts to Feel Heavy
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If you learned early that being responsible kept things from falling apart,
your nervous system may still be on alert—long after the danger has passed.
That can look like:
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success that never quite feels satisfying
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rest that feels unproductive or unsafe
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relationships carrying more tension than you want
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faith that feels sincere, but not restful
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chronic tension that never fully fades
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anger or irritability you can’t explain
This isn’t because you’re doing something wrong.
It’s because the rules you learned to survive were never meant to guide your whole life.
Imagine what could shift if your drive didn’t have to come from constant pressure, if your worth didn’t rise and fall with performance,
and if your faith and emotional life felt aligned instead of at odds.
Healing doesn’t mean losing your edge.
It means learning how to live and lead without living on edge.
Healing is personal...
But it doesn’t have to be confusing or lonely.
See what the healing process often looks like—without rushing or fixing. Â
👉 Download the Free Roadmap of HealingHi. I am Dr. Uejin Kim, MD - a Christian psychiatrist, a mom, a wife, and someone who understands the weight of responsibility.
I’ve walked this same path of pressure, confusion, overwhelm, and burnout—trying to do the “right” thing for my people.Â
For a long time, I thought pressure was just part of being faithful and responsible. I didn’t realize how much of my drive came from learning early not to need help. Learning how to regulate my nervous system — not just my behavior — changed how I lead, relate, and rest.
As a board-certified child–adult psychiatrist (since 2015) and a Bible student (since 2006), I’ve spent over a decade studying and practicing emotional, mental, and spiritual healing.
If This Resonates, Here’s a Gentle Place to Start
If you’re driven but exhausted — and don’t want to slow down,
but know this isn’t sustainable — this workshop is for you.
“Driven but Drained” is a one-hour, pre-recorded workshop where I walk through:
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why high achievers live in hyper-alert mode
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how early responsibility shapes the nervous system
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what actually helps regulation (beyond willpower)
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and how healing the past changes how leadership and faith feel now
You can watch at your own pace.
No pressure. No fixing. Just clarity and tools.
(It introduces my course and coaching only if you want to explore further.)
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Remember...  You’re always in control of the pace of your journey. No pressure.
When Faith Is Strong but
your Nervous System Is Tired
Exploring emotional healing for spiritually serious high achievers.Â
Good News Mental Health Podcast offers a space to reflect on grace, limits, and emotional regulation, especially for those who learned to carry responsibility early.
No spiritual bypassing. No self-improvement pressure. Just an honest conversation.
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Disclaimer:Â This site's content is not intended to diagnose or treat any disorders but rather for informational, educational, and empowerment purposes. Please consult with your physician or mental health provider for specific medical and mental health needs. Our connection via social media platforms does not constitute a patient-physician relationship.
