Transformation Page  

We want you to know that you are not alone:

We share these transformation stories to let you know that you are not alone! When I hit my last "rock bottom," a friend told me, "It's OK that you are here, but you cannot stay here."

You are here on this page because you want to do something different. I am proud of you. Let these stories resonate with you, encourage you, and nudge you to move forward.

Guilty to Free:

Before the course, I felt easily frustrated with the cyclical emotional merry-go-around. I personalized all the comments at work and in my relationships, and displaced my frustration on different people or situations. For example, if my husband was complaining about our decision to move to our current house, I jumped to the conclusion that he shouldn’t have married me, and it was my fault. I was raised with parents with little to no grace or understanding. I was punished for normal child things without wanting to understand me.  I struggled with the core beliefs that everything was my fault and that I was not good enough. I easily felt overwhelmed with unreasonable amounts of guilt and shame, and I would shut down in communication. Dr. Kim’s course broke down my subconscious emotion-thought-behavior process into smaller pieces to be aware of, process, and proceed. The short videos and worksheets (thought reframing worksheets, solution party worksheets) gave me a practical understanding and tools to go step-by-step. I especially liked the RPC (Reflect-Protect-Connect) acronym because I can use that in real-life situations. 1:1 coaching sessions with Dr. Kim closed any knowledge gaps or questions I had right away. She would point out things I didn’t even consider. After finishing the course, even if problems or conflicts arise, I am able to breathe and take a moment to identify and understand my emotions. I accept the situation, assess that this is not a life-or-death situation, and express my emotions with clear communication.

Overwhelmed to Calm:

Before the course, I felt frazzled, fearful, and overwhelmed. I felt like I was constantly making mistakes, which were 100% my fault. This amount of pressure would make me blow up on my loved ones… which made me feel horrible about myself. This cycle continued, and I didn't know how to stop it. I knew some of these issues had to do with my childhood, given that I never had a stable parent figure. I saw that Dr. Kim created a course on inner child healing. I signed up. I loved that the course was self-paced, short, and sweet. Dr. Kim's sharing of her flaws made me feel comfortable being a human being. She covered a lot of material with short videos and the workbook.

Dr. Kim taught complex mental health concepts and made them easy to understand; the information blew my mind. After the course, I felt like I had gained awareness and tools to help regulate my emotions, which allowed me to respond to situations instead of reacting. I also parted ways with rigid rules (any disagreement is "bad"; I should "know" better and "do" better) that were unfair to me or others. If I make a mistake (which we all do), I see it as an opportunity for growth, to accept responsibility for only my share, and to continue to pursue healing and improvement. I can reflect, protect, and connect with my inner child and nurture her to be the poised woman she wants to be.

Lost to Equipped:

Before taking the course, my emotional state during uh-oh moments was to go into a fight or flight situation with intense waves of panic and anxiety, not knowing how to “fix” the situation. My biggest win from this course is that I feel equipped with more tools to handle tense situations as they come up, and I am getting better at being able to correlate current reactions/responses to incidents in my childhood that trigger those reactions. The information learned in this course will help my day-to-day life by giving me more tools to understand stressful situations as they arise, as well as being able to recognize the cognitive distortions and defense mechanisms that creep into my thinking, influencing my thoughts. My automatic thoughts before this course were that I needed to be the one to fix all stressful and uncomfortable moments that arise. After the course, I can see that I am responsible for fixing my portion of stressful situations that come up, and allowing the other parties to be accountable for their share of the fix (solution to the conflict). My go-to defense mechanism was Intellectualism. Keeping myself busy with cleaning or organizing things around the home helped to get rid of the extra energy I felt, but it didn’t solve the issue and left me feeling mentally and physically exhausted. After the solution party, I now incorporate taking time for myself and journaling my thoughts and worries to help release the anxious feelings. One of the strengths of the course was that the lessons were broken into short, easy-to-handle sessions, allowing the user to process the information better.