Why does trying your best to be good enough hurt so much?
If you are tired of keeping up with unrealistic roles, reacting harshly to your loved ones, and realizing this is not how you want to live the next 5-10 years, let's change the course of your life together.
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"My emotions are controlling me when I should be controlling them."
In 2018, I was at the end of my rope. I was about to give up on my marriage, forfeit on my health, and lose my sanity. People told me to delegate, ask for help, or let go and let God. It just made me feel guilty, less-than, and a failure because I didn't... and I couldn't.
In this video, I share my lowest point story, but, more importantly, my journey to the solution to the root of my problem: finally attending to my unattended inner child.
I Am Ready!High performing or hyper-responsible people have similar mental & emotional health patterns. As a child psychiatrist, I observed that the pattern started from unmet childhood needs:
- Low self-esteem, difficulty accepting compliments or praise
- Chronic anxiety and "out-planning" life's uncertainties
- Dysregulated Emotions or Unaware of emotions
- Perfectionism or People Pleasing
- Shame & Guilt with normal human mistakes and failures.
But there's hope: We have to heal and parent your inner child.
What is an Inner Child?
The inner child refers to the emotional and psychological part of us that holds the experiences, memories, and feelings from our childhood. The concept of the inner child is often used to help individuals reconnect with their childhood emotions and heal any unresolved wounds from that time.
Why should I try self-parenting?
Understanding and caring for your inner child can bring healing, self-awareness, and growth. It encourages you to reconnect with the emotional aspects of yourself that may have been suppressed or neglected over time. Healing your inner child can also lead to greater emotional resilience, healthier relationships, and a deeper sense of peace.
Have you tried talk therapy? Over 42% of people have tried therapy at one point.
But it has a 16-61% dropout rate. Why?
I knew there had to be a better solution
INTRODUCING
Be Still to Move Forward
I distilled 6+ years of my mental and spiritual journey, my knowledge from psychiatric training, and my clinical and personal observations
to bring you an efficient and effective jump-start on your mental and spiritual journey.
Hear the stories of total transformation!
Crying Fits to Calm Presence
With the help of the course, Cindy, who used to feel overwhelmed at any sense of conflict and would overcompensate to make an angry person happy, now can protect her space, remove herself from the situation, and re-engage when the situation is productive and safe.
Over-explaining to Unconditional Acceptance
With the help of the course, Michelle, an intelligent and accomplished financial analyst and a mom, who felt undervalued and felt the pressure to over-explain her choices, realized this was from her dominating older sister, who criticized all her choices and pressured her to just follow along with the older sister.
Angry Reactions to Honest Communication
With the help of the course, Vanessa, who used to feel so burnt out trying to be perfect in everything and react in arguments and fights, can now calmly communicate what her needs and wants her, and finally understand what "boundaries" are!
What You'll Learn:
💡 Immediate emotional stress reduction through evidence based therapy exercises
💡 Understanding the Inner Child
💡 Uproot and address traumatic childhood wounds
💡 Self-Parenting Techniques
💡 Transforming Limiting Beliefs
💡 Self-Love and Compassion
Module 1
Introduction
In this module, I share my "before" and "after" mind states after working through the contents of this course. I also talk about expectations and guidance on what the course will be.
✔️ Emotional Awareness Quiz to be aware of our starting point
✔️ Expectations and role of this course in your journey
✔️ Initial Jitters and Mental & Spiritual Vision Board
✔️ Reflect, Protect, Connect
Module 2
Real-Life Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
In this module, I give you a step-by-step guide to Thought Reframing Exercise, a powerful and easy therapy tool within CBT.
✔️ Sharing our "uh-oh" situation
✔️ Uncovering our negative self-beliefs
✔️ Reframing those thoughts in a more fair light
✔️ Experience immediate emotional relief
Module 3
Inner Child Exploration
This is my unique approach to entering into a suppressed childhood memory. I made each lesson a baby step into unfamiliar territory with supportive reassurance so you don't feel alone.
✔️ Seeing your inner child through emotions of "uh-oh" situation
✔️ Meeting and connecting with that inner child (needs, wants, and fears)
✔️ Attending that child with affirmation and validation exercise (with Dr. Kim)
Module 4
Parenting Your Inner Child
Life has problems, doesn't it? I don't know about you but unprepared me doesn't react well compared to prepared me. In this module, I teach you how to parent yourself when you make a mistake... but in a nurturing and supportive way so that you can look forward to troubleshooting your mistakes.
✔️ Re-using our "uh-oh" situation, we learn about Defense Mechanism
✔️ I facilitate the Solution Party
✔️ We realize there are a lot of solution options to our common problems!
Module 5
Summary & Celebration
With my crazy hair and smeared eyeliner (it was a long day of filming), I invite you to connect with yourself at various parts of this course and C-E-L-E-B-R-A-T-E this milestone!
✔️ Recap of skillset covered
✔️ Reflection time
✔️ Send off to the start of a new mental and spiritual journey.
WANT MORE REASON TO START NOW?
I want to give you the support you need to jump-start this journey.
Your one-time payment includes:
✅ LIFETIME access to this course (keep up with the updates for free!)
✅ Monthly live Q&A with me when you feel stuck
✅ ONE TIME payment priced at less than 2-3 private pay therapy sessions
✅ 14-day Money Back Guarantee*
You already tried your best.
I offer this course not because you didn't try your best... but because I know you already did.
I know you tried different things here and there on your own, but still feel lost and confused.
BSTMF is a practical map for your mental health journey that can easily fit into your schedule. I will teach you your whys and hows in just 10-15 minutes a day for 4-5 weeks!
Okay, it's now or never!
Hi, I'm Dr. Uejin Kim!
Welcome to this transformative journey! I’m so glad you’re here, taking the first step toward reconnecting with your true self.
In 2018, I was ready to give up on my marriage, had gained so much weight and health problems from stress, and was a pressure cooker/ticking bomb. I tried little "hacks" here and there, read a lot of books, but I had one thing left to do: ask for help and receive grace from others. In this journey, I met my little Uejin and promised to protect and grow with her. My journey, still on-going, has never been the same.
Now I can say "No" to comparisons, guilt, and what-ifs, and say "Yes" to my priorities, preferences, and presence.
Paying nurturing attention to yourself might feel scary, unfamiliar, but enticing to you. Take your time, be gentle with yourself, and know that you’re not alone. This is your path to rediscovering the power of who you truly are.
You can learn more about me at https://linktree.com/druejinkim
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Most Frequently Asked Questions
These are questions I get asked most often. If you have any other questions, let us know at [email protected]
Can I buy this course to work with my spouse, my small group, or my current therapist?
Can I work both the course and talk therapy? Or should I pick just one?
I am so busy! How much time and effort would this course take?
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Can inner child healing help with history of trauma?
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